16. Spiritual Support

When we are confronted with death we often think about spiritual things and it can be a time when we will explore our beliefs more fully. Encourage the mourner to embrace their faith, realizing that God is with us in our suffering. Some people are confused as to what has happened and will sometimes feel angry at God. It is important that we listen but often times it is good to suggest some pastoral care be brought in. Simple prayer said on behalf of the mourner, who is not yet ready to pray, can be comforting to them.

Sometimes returning to the church, perhaps where the funeral was held, can be an emotional experience. One sensitive and understanding pastor dropped off a tape of the church service every week to a mourning parishioner, until he was ready to return which was almost a year later. Throughout the absence the parishioner felt part of the congregation.