8. Sharing your memories... the gift we are left with
During the first few months after a death, friends and relatives tend to focus on the bereaved survivor, while the survivor focuses on the one who died. It's important to show that you remember, too. When you share your memories of the deceased, you are offering a precious memento to the grieving person. Your concern and love show not only in what you share, but in the fact that you are taking the time to do so. It is important to ask permission of the mourner as to whether he/she feels like talking about the person who has died. Some days they do and some days they don't. The same with mementos of the past, sometimes they are a most precious gift, other times too painful to look at - ask first.